One thing is for sure, people have a lot of questions about surrogacy –and I think that is just GREAT!! The more we can hear from the beautiful surro moms out there, the more surrogacy can become a more talked about, mainstream and assessable option for those wishing to grow their family.
Below is a quick interview with surro mom, Skylier. I asked her my top 10 MOST ASKED surrogate questions, and I love the way she answered those tough questions with such grace and ease. I’m sure you’ll enjoy reading her interview as much as I did! XO, Megan
1.) What has been your favorite part of being a surrogate mom so far? I love the joy that is already pouring in from my IPS (Intended Parents). It’s such a humbling experience and its so life altering to see how easy some things can come to you in life, when other people struggle so hard.
2.) Why did you decide to be a surrogate mom? It’s something I’ve always wanted to do! My Aunt did it when I was a young child and it has always been something that was instilled in me to want to achieve growing up. To be in such an intimate part of someone’s life doing something that comes so easy to me.
3.) Are you worried about having to give up the baby? No! Definitely not. I don’t even feel like I’m giving up anything. It’s the same as babysitting, they hand me their child, I promise to take care of it and then I give it back. I love every kid I’ve ever babysat, but I definitely don’t feel maternal like I’m giving up anything. I view surrogacy the same way!
4.) How do you handle comments from strangers or other people that think surrogacy is weird? I quite honestly just don’t pay any mind to them. I respect everyone’s views & I love to hear them, I just don’t let them affect me personally. It’s similar to different parenting styles. I appreciated everyone and their parenting style and I love to hear about it but I don’t always agree. And they don’t have to agree with me either!
5.) How did you explain you were going to be a surrogate to your kid(s) and what was their reaction?I just explained someone’s tummy was broken and we are going to babysit and grow the baby to make sure it’s nice and healthy. Then we would give the baby back! She said okay and kept eating. Kids are so non-judgemental.
6.) What was the most surprising thing about being a surro mom? Anything you wish you knew beforehand? Honestly just how amazing I was treated! It was crazy to feel like someone thinks you walk on water! I researched my brain off so I felt like i was prepared for everything that came my way!
7.) Okay, I know we aren’t supposed to ask about the money, but are you getting paid a lot!?! How has the money helped your family? Yes! And YES we are out of debt & we will be making our kids an amazing back yard! I got to give my Intended Parent’s a baby and they got to give my kids a dream back yard!
8.) What has been the most awkward thing so far? I’m very open and not very modest, so quite honestly nothing. Ha! But I’m sure without an agency to be the “go-between” talking about money would be awkward.
9.) Any advice you would give for moms thinking about becoming surro mommies? RESEARCH! And know this has to be something you want to do. You don’t just sign up and start get paid. It’s a headache with getting off work, tons of traveling, just a lot of work before ever making a dime. No complaints here, but it’s not for the faint of heart. I have loved every minute of it!
Skylier LOVES talking about surrogacy and is willing to chat and answer any questions you may have – click HERE to find her on instagram and connect! If you are interested in learning more about becoming a surrogate yourself, please take this quick 5-minute quiz to see if you qualify. We look forward to hearing from you!